When we think of shame as an emotion, we can see how it doesn’t serve us, or rather, doesn’t help move us forward the way we want it to. But when we shift our mindset to view shame as another tool in our toolbox, we can understand why it is present and learn to pick up other, more helpful tools instead. Valerie Friedlander joins me on the podcast today to share how this shame tool, that we’ve learned to use for motivation, negatively impacts our self-trust and what we can do about it. This week, episode 216 of the Positively Living Podcast is about how to let go of shame and rebuild self-trust!


Valerie Friedlander, PCC is a Life/Business Alignment coach who helps passionate, high-achieving women create alignment between their work in the world, their family, and themselves. She works with clients to listen to their intuition, shift conditioned mindset patterns, and take practical action steps to create a life that reflects the change they want to see in the world. She is also the host of the Unlimited podcast, and a wife, mom of two, sci-fi/fantasy nerd, and creative spirit.

In this episode of the Positively Living Podcast, Valerie Friedlander shares why we have been taught to use shame as a tool for motivation despite having so many other tools available to us and she offers actionable steps to take right now to release it and build self-trust. 

Valerie and I cover the following topics:

  • How self-trust is built on integrity and embracing our whole selves, recognizing where we are. 
  • Why finding a safe space in a community can help release shame and provide a sense of belonging. 
  • Using self-care and self-acceptance to replace shame with more empowering tools. 
  • How to let go of shame and instead approach challenges with curiosity and compassion. 

By releasing shame and building trust in yourself, you can live with a greater sense of empowerment, acceptance, and care for your whole, authentic self. 

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